asking trans people "if gender isn't real, why do you want to be the other gender so bad" is like asking people "if rent shouldn't exist, why do you want rent control so badly": because we live in a society that violently enforces gender, and that makes it real. asking trans people, and only them, to pretend like gender doesn't matter, while everyone around us keeps hurting us for it, isn't fair. it's like asking tenants to not give a shit about rent while their landlord is trying to evict them.


@amberage @shello I love this thank you!!! It’s a conversation that I could not explain to friends because a lot of people just think “ignore the haters be yourself” and that i am “comforting into gender roles by changing x/y/z” but picking up a gender label is just a way to describe how one feels and want to present themselves it doesn’t necessarily mean that it has to be that way for everyone. I think it is about separating our own existence (which is inherently political) and what we feel comfortable doing with it vs. what we believe in and what we do as activists, i.e. us doing things for ourselves does not equate acts for the cause; but people engrained in that system of oppression do not see that. It’s almost as if they feel like the weight of activism should entirely rely on our shoulders and that we should be perfect activists in every way including dictating our own identity and existence based off these beliefs

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